Are You Married Before You're Married

Are You Married Before You Are Married?

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There is also a difference between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman cares about the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit. But she who is married cares about the things of the world—how she may please her husband. *[[1Corinthians 7:34]] WEB*

This is what the Bible says. You might be unmarried right now but is there someone who you mostly do things to please? Do you wear the clothes you wear to please that person or mostly to look good for that person? Do you constantly buy things you know the person would like, do things that will make the person happy or go to places because you know it would please that person?

Do you find yourself, making the choices you make, even inconveniencing yourself just to please that person? Do you find yourself constantly thinking about how to please that person, even more than you think about making God happy?

Do you think about the person more than God? Would you instantly give all your money to the person if he/she needed it but find it hard to empty your pocket or bank account if it was needed for God's work?

Do you constantly make choices that involve the person or with the person in mind?

Think about it. The scriptures say that it is married people who think about how to please their spouses. An unmarried person is to live his or her life thinking about how to please God, not men. This doesn’t mean that as a married person, you are to make your spouse your idol though.

It doesn't mean it is wrong to be in a relationship or to consider that “someone” when making choices that could affect them.

However, it is wrong when everything you do is about the person. When you think about the person more than God, you are actually married before you are married, and even worse, you are in danger of making the person your idol.

Prayerfully consider this, and may God give us wisdom.

-Amesiamina

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